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BDSM Beginners Tips – Indulge your fantasy safely

If you’re looking to delve into the realms of fantasy with one of the gorgeous escorts you see here at Movida Escorts, it’s important that you do so safely. In today’s article, we’ll be talking about how you can carefully introduce yourself into the pleasure of BDSM and really get the most out of your first time experience.

This is particularly targeted at people who are new to the concepts of BDSM and haven’t really had the chance to live out their fantasies in their daily lives beforehand, so veterans of the art of BDSM may not find much of use contained within this article.

Before we begin, there are a couple of quick acronyms to go through that relate to staying safe throughout a BDSM session, which are the following:

Hurt not Harm: This isn’t really an acronym, but nonetheless an important ideology. The general concept is that even though people may enjoy erotic pain during their session, they should not be subject to long-lasting harm.

RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink): Here, the idea is that there is an inherent risk with almost all BDSM activities. The important consideration to take here is to be aware of exactly what risks you might be encountering and how to mitigate that risk as much as possible to make sure any accidents are dealt with safely and promptly.

SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual): This exists to emphasise that all parties involved in your BDSM activity are sane of mind, consenting to the activity and in a sane state of mind. This helps to ensure that everyone is safe and at minimal risk of harm throughout the session.

What is BDSM

One of the first things to consider before delving into BDSM is knowing what BDSM is in the first place. BDSM is a commonly used umbrella term which relates to a variety of erotic activities and practices which usually include one or more “tops” and one or more “bottoms”. “Top” usually refers to the person giving the pleasurable experience, whereas “bottom” refers to those on the receiving end.

BDSM refers to the following:

  • B (B&D) – Bondage and Discipline
  • D (D&s) – Dominance and submission
  • S – Sadism
  • M – Masochism

This is a simple model for differentiating between aspects of the umbrella BDSM term. Many people may find that they have overlapping interests between different aspects, which makes it all the more important to have an understanding of what each implies. You may enjoy control or having control taken away, you may enjoy giving pain or you may enjoy receiving it; but all in all it’s important to understand where exactly your interests lie before you dive in.

Here is a quick video which does a good job of highlighting what BDSM is and what to expect:

Use quality equipment – don’t wing it

When it comes to staying safe, it’s important to make sure you’re using equipment that is fit for purpose. With Movida this isn’t an issue, as all of our BDSM escorts have a plethora of toys and any equipment that’s needed to help you fulfil your fantasy. However, regardless of who you first try BDSM with; you need to make sure that you’re not putting anything where it’s not meant to go. Avoid using makeshift restraints such as zip ties and tape as an example.

Know your limits

This goes without saying, but it’s important that you’re aware of your physical limits – especially when you’re inexperienced. If you’re not sure of exactly where your limits stand, consider what you’re in to and how much of that you can take before it gets overwhelming. For example, if you’re interested in the idea of pain play, it’s important to factor in your pain tolerance before you even consider indulging in the fantasy further.

You’ll want to think up safe words, although you can find some examples of common words to use here:
https://www.bustle.com/p/the-most-common-safe-words-people-use-during-sex-7963114

Do a bit of research

Again, this is fairly self-explanatory but it’s imperative that you do a bit of research and get an understanding of what to expect before engaging in BDSM. For example, if you’re looking to meet a bondage escort; make sure you understand common techniques and what risks you might be taking to get an understanding of how they can be performed before you make your booking. This will help you feel more confident and aware of what’s going on, which in turn will make your time that much more pleasurable.

Communication is key

The first step to preparing yourself for your encounter is to talk through it with your partner for the session. Explain what you like, what you dislike and where you believe your limits lie. Simple discussion goes a long way towards making sure your experience is safe and pleasurable for all involved. It’s imperative that you explain what you are and are not in to before the ball gets rolling, so be sure to communicate with your BDSM partner and ensure everything is kept consensual and within your limits. It is best practice to establish any safe words or hard limits during this discussion.

Aftercare

One of the less common considerations when you get involved in your fantasies is that it can have an impact on your brain and mental well-being. These sessions can be very intense which can lead to a burn out effect due to BDSM being so far away from what many of us experience in our day to day lives. Many people choose to let go of their responsibilities, becoming more submissive in their fetishes and this can have a knock-on effect. The endorphin rush and release can often leave you feeling drained and fatigued, which makes aftercare all the more important.

Aftercare can help with this as it gives you time to recover and talk about how the experience has impacted you emotionally. You might want to eat and get something to drink and go over what your expectations were once more, talking about what you did and didn’t enjoy during the session. If you have the time, a great way to cool down after an intense BDSM session would be to enjoy an erotic massage from one of our expert massage escorts.

That concludes our top tips for beginner BDSM enthusiasts, we hope this helps you pluck up the courage to let your fantasies run wild. Just give us a call today and speak to our expert team and enjoy an evening with the range of companions available at Movida.

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